Empic

There are many different roads to take in life.  I suggest you take none.  Forge your own path.  Have your own experiences.   And dont fall for the all roads lead to Rome crap.  They don't, and the Romans had a habit of conquering.  In which I say.  "Conquer they self!"  Let no man dictate your destination in life.

What does this have to do with weight loss, esteem, or even improvement of ones life.  EVERYTHING! EVERYTHING! EVERYTHING!

Everyone that walks the earth, has a story.  Each is important.   Each one of us has been effected by one an other.   Our environment has effected us also, and we have effected it and others.  How our choices in life did in the past and present, even in the future is important and each one of us has the choice of doing so in a negative or positive way.

Lets, start  with the basics shall we.
We all have things that are common.   We want to feel secure, loved, needed.  There are many more you can add the the list.
Everyone of us has wounds.  Most come from our past. As we read this someone some where is developing them right now.  Somethings we can not change from our past, and want to forget.  Yet, we go back there. Either in subconscious mind or dwelling on it in our conscious.   That pesky,  wounded past, can disroy us and everything and everyone around us.  If we let it. I know from experience.  That is just it "If we let it!"  Some times we are not even a where of how messed up we are.  What is left, but, a lonely broken self abused worthless feeling individual.   And you cant see the light through the trees.  Doing the samething over and over again.  Using Food,  Alcohol,  Drugs, Physical, Verbal in abusive behavior. Or, allowing others to abuse you.  Not seeing these behaviors pushes others away.  Who in there right mind would run towards that right?

We even run  from our selves.  Using these modalities to mask and queit the past, the pain.  Trust me it doesnt work.  Seeking out professional help is great.  If you are really open and honest. There are a lot of great therapists out there and they can give you many different coping skills.  But, in the end they cannot heal you.  YOU and only YOU can do that.  Most people find it really hard to revisit this pain face to face let alone share it with a stranger.   The past pain is like the rawling ocean, strorming,  we will put our toe in it that is it.   And not jump in.  For fear of drowning.   So we self abuse.  Mask the feelings.  You pick your pioson.  Food, Achohol,  Physical,  Verbal, Emotional.   There are a number os ways to do it.
All are temporary.  

So, how in the hell are we to evolve,  or survive through life.  People say deal with it.  Move on.  Dont look at the past,  don't drive in the rear veiw mirror. Yada Yada yada.

I say to quiet those demons, are to face them.  Listen to the voice in your head.  If it hurts, or makes you sad.  Feel it. Ask yourself why.
Facing those demons are not easy, why.  The ego does not want to change.  The egos job, is to protect.
So, I say every time, that nasty thought plays in your head, replace it.  With a loving thought.
Example:  "You will never amount to anything good."
"I already have."
"I'm a loving, person"
Replace it every time, it plays in your head. Say something nice about yourself.  Every time a negative thought about someone else plays in your head Say something nice about them.
Believe me it is not easy.  But, I know this works.  You will start to see the world through different eyes.
Try is for a week.
My rant is over...